Tuesday, June 08, 2010

Happy 1st Birthday in heaven Nolan

Happy 1st Birthday to baby Nolan in heaven today.
Please stop by and give his mommy Ashley (A ruby family) a few encouraging words since today is a really emotional day for her. When I first started this blog almost a year ago this is one of the first blogs I started following. Nolan's life really touched my heart and continues to do so. Ashley is just an amazing person. Ashley wishing and praying for strength today. I know Nolan is going to send you many hugs today that will warm with you with peace.


Today, I am feeling better. Monday's I swear just wear me out. I had a client call in to work. He was very happy to know that I am back and so on. He kept talking and talking, asking questions about the baby (he knew I was on maternity leave). I couldn't stop him and finally when I did I had to tell him that my baby girl was no longer with me, that in itself is already difficult. His response was "oh well at least you still have your son", WTF????? Excuse my language. Really? People really speak without thinking, I hate that. I always try to make the best of Monday's but something always has to happen to bring me down. I have learned to just ignore comments like that and do my job but from now on I asked to never have to speak to that client again. One day it's going to just set me off and someone is going to see the not so nice side of me. I feel it coming and it scares me.
Julian was also having a bad Monday too, thank God that by the end of the night he was able to calm down. He sweetened up my night by giving me kisses and talking about the baby. I have to record him one day and post it on here, it is just the cutest thing ever. I hope he always remembers her. Well Monday is behind me for the moment, today I am just going to count my blessings and hope for a much better day.

10 comments:

Adriana Davies said...

Happy first birthday Nolan! I too feel the same as you, people are so dumb sometimes and dont think before they speak. One child can NEVER REPLACE another! *hugs!*

The Blue Sparrow said...

I hope today is a better day for you! I hate those comments too, they just knock the wind right outa my sails and then I stew about them for days and days. Happy 1st Heavenly Birthday Nolan! *HUGS*

Kalialani said...

Happy 1st birthday to Nolan!

OMG wow that client said was SOOO rude. I'm sorry :( people don't even realize how rude their comments can be sometimes. I hope your day gets much better.

(((HUGS)))

Holly said...

Happy Birthday Nolan!!

I'm sorry for the comment you received. I wish people would just say sorry and leave it at that sometimes!!

Jill said...

I too have learned to ignore comments. Sometimes it is hard though.

Happy birthday to Nolan!

Maggie said...

Ugh, ignoring the comments is so tough! I haven't been able to yet, so far they all stick. I'm sorry you had to hear that. Wishing you a better day tomorrow & also a happy birthday to Nolan!!!! xxxooo

Girl in the dark said...

Ignoring the insensitive things people say is really hard. I've learned to walk away or else risk saying something I will later regret. I also wish people would just say I'm sorry sometimes.

Betty said...

Happy Birthday Nolan!!

(((hugs))) I'm sorry that happened to you. People can be so rude and not think before they speak. :-(

kidsinvite said...

It is really sad to loose someone, especially an angel. He is with you always, Happy first birthday to Nolan in heaven!

elena said...

I am so sorry that was said to you. When we first told people the news that Lilly had anencephaly we were told twice "Well you're still young, you can have more kids" so I definitely can relate to how hurtful that comment is. Our children definitely do not replace each other. Those who have not gone through this will never understand that. many hugs to you. It is very hard to ignore, but I am glad that you are choosing to do so. I tend to do the same when people make hurtful comments I just distance myself from them. Intentional or not it is important to not be around that as I live my life grieving my Lilly.

I wish I could give you many hugs in person but hopefully virtual hugs will be enough :)

love and prayers
elena

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